Nov 19

Brainstorm: explosion, creativity and adolescence

The student performances at FOBISIA conferences are always excellent and this year’s performances at the 31st FOBISIA conference in Bangkok this past weekend more than exceeded expectations. The harmony of a school chamber choir, the fluid elegance of a school dance society … and then there was a duologue performed by two students from St Andrew’s International School Bangkok, which was so powerful that it literally brought me to tears.

Why? Well, the duologue was introduced as the outcome of work that students at the school had done in conjunction with an external theatre company based on the concept of the play ‘Brainstorm’. To sate my immediate hunger for more information, I delved into the internet and discovered that this is more than just a play – it is, in fact, more of a framework for the elucidation of the personal experience of a cast, although there is also an original play script which has been performed at the National Theatre in London, and which can be can be performed by schools. The whole point of this dramatic project, however, is not just to replicate what others have done, but to illuminate and explore the unique and wonderfully complex, evolving brains of the teenagers who are performing – brains which are not ‘broken’ but rather glorious in their ‘exhilarating chaos’.

People who don’t work with teenagers often misunderstand this period of human development – probably because they have forgotten (or suppressed the memory of) what it was like to have the brain of a teenager, where ‘86 billion neurons connect and collide’. With so much happening in the teenage brain, it is little wonder that the ability to act and communicate in a ‘conventional’ manner can elude teenagers, but rather than become frustrated if adults embrace this process they can gain glimpses into the amazing phenomenon that is the inner world of the adolescent – a place that is arguably one of the most creative places to be on this planet.

Teenagers care … they really, deeply, acutely care. They care about the world and (even when we can’t see it) they care about us, the adults around them. To assume that they don’t is to do teenagers a grave disservice, and fail to afford them the respect they deserve for navigating everything that is happening in their environment and their bodies, their emotions, their minds and their brains. What is so beautiful about ‘Brainstorm is that it enables teenagers to give a glimpse into their world and hear their thoughts, their raw love and their wisdom.

The emotion was strong, hence the unleashing of the tears. No parent or educator could fail to be moved by the silent reminders, spelled out in written words on the stage by the two teenagers we watched and heard that reinforced their love for their parents, their need to be alone at times, and their reassurance that they’re going to be okay.

I was speaking at FOBISIA on maximising diversity of thought in leadership teams, and I was part of a panel which explored how women leaders still need to work to change perceptions and secure their seat at the leadership table. My reflection after experiencing ‘Brainstorm’, however, was that in order to solve either or both of these problems, or the other issues raised at the conference, we could all do a whole lot worse than listen to the insights of the world’s adolescents.

They – and all of us – deserve their input.

Nov 01

A Wellness of Kindness …

One of the topics I have been focusing on in particular with leaders this term, and which I will shortly revisit, at one of my talks at GESS Dubai 2024 later in November, is that of the wellness of school leaders and teachers: what it means, how to engender it, and how to sustain it in the busy, often frantic and frenetic, environments in which educators work.

There are many aspects to wellness, of course; firmly, at its heart though, arguably (and demonstrably), is kindness: kindness to self, kindness to others, kindness to the world in which we live. The science tells us this, in fact … a study in Canada in 2013, for example, which has been picked up and confirmed by later studies, showed that adolescents who volunteered actually had significantly lower levels of certain markers for cardiovascular risk, including the marker interleukin-6, about which you can investigate online if you are so inclined (but basically, for the non-medical, is better for human bodies to possess in smaller rather than larger amounts). And if you still needed convincing, hear the words of that now-guru of Leadership Wellness, Brené Brown, who talks and writes extensively about the importance of kindness. If the great Dr Brown says it, is must be true … kindness matters!

Kindness, the evidence shows, affects us at a cellular level. The act of being kind – ie not just having people be kind to us, but being kind ourselves – actually makes us healthier. So fundamentally, if we want to be well (and we want our school leaders and staff to be well), then kindness is a pretty good place to start. This includes, of course being kind to ourselves, focusing on praising ourselves when things go well, rather than simply punishing ourselves when they don’t; the power of kindness would seem to be amplified, however, when we apply it to others, and we are proactively kind.

So, what does this mean for schools? Pursuing this train of thought highlights that wellness starts from within – that is to say, it begins with the individual. Individuals need to choose to be kind, and then need to practise kindness, if they are to be truly kind. Kindness is a complex concept in some senses, because it is a combination of kind intention, communication of this kind intention, and reception by another of this communication, but it is also extremely simple – start with the intention of kindness, and (although admittedly not a failsafe approach, given that some gestures intended to be kind can fall far short of the mark), the chances are that some of the kindness will land, and will be impactful on the person for whom it is intended.

Moreover, and importantly, this act of being genuinely kind will have increased your wellness. Yes, really! Kindness can start small – with a smile, a pause to help, a thought for others; it certainly starts with us as individuals. Of course kindness needs to be led from the top in schools … a kind environment does not take form if our leaders are unkind. But actually, for kindness to have impact on the wellness of staff, it needs to be practised by the individual, for their own sake as well as for that of others.

In our society, we often fall into the trap of surrendering our responsibility for ourselves to others – to systems, to processes, to protocols … but in fact, each of us has responsibility for ourselves, and the wonderful advantage of choosing and practising kindness is that we are actively impacting both ourselves and others.

Let us not forget that any change in our behaviour, as students of the science of habit formation will know, requires individual discipline and commitment … Let us embrace this in our quest for wellness! Great change happens intentionally, after all, and kindness is no exception. My challenge for today is practise being even kinder, because you will be taking the next steps forward in your journey of wellness.

Enjoy!

Jul 20

From ‘What If …?’ to ‘Let’s Now …’ Reflections on the 2024 Hakuba Forum

It is now almost exactly a month since the second Hakuba Forum, which took place over four days in the Japanese Alps in the second half of June, and it has taken me this amount of time to process this astonishing experience and capture it in a format which can, I hope, begin to communicate some of the essence and energy of the event. When c60 forward-thinking educators from around the world come together, then it would be reasonable to expect that sparks of ingenuity and determination be born, and they definitely, definitely were.

My key takeaways, I realise, are ‘connection’ and ‘action’, bound together by a depth of reflection.

Connection … with people, with others, with place, with thoughts, with minds and hearts, with nature, and with our world … One of the core purposes of the Forum was to bring people together in order to reflect and create plans for action for the future of learning, education, schools, children and humans. Through reflection and focus, through sharing with others and making deep bonds, like a web of connective tissue that holds us all together, we did this. It was my privilege to work with an energising trio to conceptualise a community of practice, a framework and network to keep the energy flowing, and to ensure that the ideas that emerged will continue to flourish in action, and to give visibility to projects and hold us all to account for our continued commitment and engagement.

Action … in the then, in the now, in the future … The drive of the Forum was to challenge us to commit to concrete actions in our spheres of influence, to turn provocations or ‘what-if …’ into planned actions, and the ‘let’s now …’. It was uplifting to see practitioners and leaders leaving the Forum with a commitment to shift the mindset of their communities around why they exist and how they are going to to create sustainable, profoundly happy human schools, through practical projects. For me, I have committed anew to challenge and support the audacious learning of school and other educational leaders, and I am actively working on developing this project now

Forums like this don’t happen by accident; a phenomenal amount of preparation underpins them, and nurtures them. Others have already expressed a profound gratitude to the team behind the forum, and I echo this. I am deeply, deeply grateful to have been part of it. I came away engaged, focused, appropriately dislocated, energised, and ready to reflect and act still further. Plus I loved, with immense joyful abandon, being able to connect friends and colleagues with others and making new friends and colleagues – I LOVE my new friends!

Let’s now then turn commitment into reality and see what the new academic year brings as a result. Bring on change …

Jun 18

Feeling the story …

‘I wasn’t feeling that story anyway’ … so says Robert Peston in the British Airways safety video, as he dutifully demonstrates packing away his laptop, and storing it securely for take-off.

As I head to Japan (on a BA flight) for the Hakuba Forum, where I hope to learn, grow and explore, alongside other educators and leaders in their fields, I note that I have started – and abandoned – no fewer than 3 blogs over the past 9 days. I might well return to any of them – and more of my ideas that I have been processing – over the next few months, because I would love to share my thoughts and reflections about some or all of the following:

“It is raining in Tokyo”
  • enduring relationships, which was brought home to me in Sydney last week, as I picked up again, almost seamlessly, with numerous friends and colleagues, despite having been physically absent for 5 years;
  • the spread of disciplined student-centred, project-based learning, drawing on the progressive work happening in the ScotsX programme that I had the privilege to see in practice at Scots College Sydney (with thanks to Dr Hugh Chilton and former colleague Dr Ian Lambert);
  • the fractures of the past, and how they haunt our society now, unless we find ways to forgive, drawing on thoughts about the performance of ‘Stolen’ that I saw at the Wharf Theatre in Sydney, about the Stolen Generation – such a powerful performance.

But, as Robert Peston’s words encapsulate, I clearly wasn’t quite feeling any of these stories quite enough to be able to write them down succinctly and clearly – probably because everything is a bit of a whirlwind at the moment, and I had so many thoughts and reflections to draw on. A gluttony of riches, even, and my heart overflowing … What I am clear about, however, is how much I am looking forward to Hakuba. 4 days of thinking, learning, reflection with friends and new friends … what a wonderful opportunity to grow, and contribute to educational growth on a wider scale.

This is a story in the making, and it is one that I am definitely feeling!

Speak soon … 😊

Jun 04

Ridiculously joyful learning

I have felt ridiculously, joyfully pleased with myself several times over the past ten days. It has been amazing! At moments, I have felt like singing from the rooftops, as I have taken enormous pride in the achievements of those with whom I have worked, and have felt the glow of satisfaction for having helped bring these achievements to fruition. As a coach, I know of course that it is not about me, but about the other person, and I have, also of course, noted the wise voice in my head that cautions me to remember that being pleased with oneself is a small step away from potentially blind self-satisfaction, or the pride that can often be followed by a fall … nonetheless, though, I have over the past week or so, on numerous occasions, quite simply abandoned myself to the limitless joy of the inner child, and to feeling super-super-super-pleased with myself … and it has been such a glorious feeling!

I recognise that it is the most enormous privilege to do what I do , working with educational (and other) leaders around the world, and when I was in Dubai at the beginning of last week, it was fantastic to help facilitate two days of activity with a group of superb leaders, who are already at the top of their game, and who were on a quest to tweak their behaviours, in order to become a genuinely high performing team. Fast forward to the end of the week, and another ‘ridiculously pleased’ moment came when I had the opportunity to spend a brilliantly energetic day with a cohort of deputy heads, shifting their mindset about themselves as learners, seeding and creating ideas which will now shape the work they do with their own teams, as well as on themselves. And just look at what we did together! Shedding misconceptions (including about the perceived barrier of time), identifying personal learning styles and new habits … oh, the joy I felt in making a difference! Their energy, determination and focus was palpable at the end of the day – I was utterly, utterly delighted on their behalf … and mine! I had curated a really targeted set of materials and tasks for them, and it really worked! The pleasure that it brought me was immeasurable!!

At the heart of all of this activity last week was powerful learning. I am totally convinced that learning (and relearning) to be a learner – a curious, inquisitive human being – is utterly transformational. This is why I am so proud of the work of the Edinburgh-based charity I chair, Light Up Learning, about which I have written before, which enables young people with multiple layers of disadvantage, and who are frequently not served well by the school system, to learn to really love learning, through a process we have developed which essentially involves them in learning about what they love. The difference this makes in their lives and for their future prospects is phenomenal, and another of my ‘ridiculously pleased’ moments happened yesterday, in my regular weekly conversation with the Head of Operations (with whom I love working – Iona, you are fab!), when I was struck again by the absolute enormity of what we are achieving. Making a fundamental difference for young people and their futures through what we do as an organisation – how amazing is this?!

I know of course – rationally – that I cannot claim personal credit for all of the progress made by all the learners I engage with, because they are doing the actual work of shifting their mindsets, tweaking their behaviours, and learning to learn. Moreover, in the case of Light Up Learning, it is actually our wonderfully engaged learning mentors who walk directly alongside the young people, and the Board and I just ensure that the organisation thrives* … but releasing myself to the joy of the impact I/we are having was such a wonderful, wonderful feeling. Look at how people are growing and evolving, in front of my and their eyes! Imagine the impact they will now have on others!! Isn’t it all just so amazing?!

Back from Dubai, I am now just about to embark on a journey to Sydney – my first time back in that beautiful city since the pandemic – in order to rekindle relationships and explore some innovative educational practice. I am in learning mode myself … and ready to become even more ridiculously pleased with myself as my brain and heart expand yet further. I am so, so looking forward to the journey.

Join me in being ridiculously, joyfully pleased – and ridiculously, joyfully grateful. And then I think that we will all find that it is not ridiculous at all … Onwards and upwards!

*talking of which … Light Up Learning is actively building our network of donors; if you want to make a difference through regular giving to young people in Edinburgh and the Lothians, please contact iona@lightuplearning.org. You’ll love talking to her anyway, and hearing about what the organisation is doing – enjoy!

May 05

Female leaders in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia

I have just spent a truly lovely day largely in the company of a number of wonderful female school leaders in Riyadh, ahead of the inaugural GESS Saudi Arabia conference, which takes place on 6-7 May. Today has been enormously uplifting and stimulating; I have enjoyed engaging in discussions, astute observations, and insights. Plus we laughed and hugged a lot!

I coach many successful senior female school leaders across the world, and encounter many more female leaders through the recruitment processes in which I am privileged to be involved with LSC Education; each female leader is different (as you would expect!), and each is at a different stage in their careers / lives / self-confidence / self-awareness. However, one thing I consistently notice about these female school leaders is an enhanced, acute drive to succeed in their roles by forging ahead, pushing boundaries and creating a more equal world.

Reflecting on this, I am sure that this drive will be born to a large extent of the need that many female leaders readily acknowledge, ie that they feel they must keep proving themselves to the world – not, in fact, because they actually need to do so personally, because they are already demonstrably successful, but because the world still has vestigial (and not so vestigial) memories of imbalances between men and women in leadership roles. Most of the female leaders I meet have stories of encountering unconscious bias throughout their career, and they realise that they still have to lead the way in creating and embedding new layers of expectations about what leadership can look like when women practise it.

These female leaders have for the most part discovered and developed communities of other female leaders, who are willing supporters and mentors (including the WISE programme, who have just announced their 2025 conference, this time in Seoul); they also, however, usually have an acute recognition of how much still needs to change in order to ensure that future generations of women do not encounter frustrations or limitations in their careers, many of which derive directly from prejudices born of lack of understanding that women can actually be extraordinary leaders. This awareness – and their determination to do something about it – translates into the pioneer, forward-facing drive that is almost tangible in these successful female leaders.

As you might expect, the social history and developmental curve of Saudi Arabia makes this drive even more significant. Riyadh is a very welcoming place, yet the laws and rules that have brought a greater equalisation of women and men are still recent; moreover, laws and rules take time to be translated into social norms. Being a female leader in the Kingdom is clearly perfectly possible; substantial change always requires role modelling, however, so that girls and young women can see who they can be.

One of the panel sessions that I am chairing at GESS Saudi Arabia is about success stories for women in education, and I am really, really looking forward to this. The female leaders with whom I spent such a glorious time today already have their stories to tell; what is so exciting to see is not only how they will add to them over the next few years, but also how they will empower and enable others. The future awaits!

Apr 04

The Coming Wave: AI and the edge of human frontiers

I have just read a bracing book – bracing, as in part-terrifying, that is, with some uncomfortable truths. I have, however, found over the years that the majority of bracing books also serve as prompts that lead to positive action, and this one was no exception. The book? ‘The Coming Wave’ by Mustafa Suleyman (with Michael Bhaskar). Subtitled ‘AI, Power and the 21st Century’s Greatest Dilemma’, it delves in fascinating detail into Suleyman’s insights, born of his career in AI, which included co-founding DeepMind, and leading AI product management and policy at Google.

Very well-written, with recent, relevant and real ‘hooks’ on which we can readily hang our understanding, ‘The Coming Wave’ makes a compelling case for an appropriate containment of AI as we explore its potential – and, moreover, introduces us to a framework of ideas that shows us how we could potentially achieve this. I have been reading it as part of my preparation for chairing an upcoming AMCIS webinar in May, which I am really looking forward to – and a huge thank you to Nick Richardson of Marketing Advisers for making the introduction of Michael Bhaskar to AMCIS! ‘The Coming Wave’ traces the history of AI through the unique lens of Mustafa Suleyman, and draws on events – recent and past – in human history to explore the patterns of world-changing waves of innovation, and to situate the development of AI within this history. (Michael has also written ‘Human Frontiers‘, another fascinating book!)

Our greatest dilemma as a human race, according to Suleyman and Bhaskar, is this: that either new technologies or the absence of those very same technologies could be equally catastrophic for the world, if we do not prepare sufficiently well for them … and at present we do not appear to be engaging in preparation that is adequate enough. Containment – by which they mean the ability to monitor, curtail, control and potentially even close down technologies – is, they argue, necessary, although this is an especially challenging option with this particular wave of innovation, because of its unique features (not least the speed of its development).

It should be noted, however, that in arguing for containment, the authors are not advocating for a Luddite-like rebellion against AI … in fact, on the contrary, despite the grave warnings embedded in the text (the terrifying bits), there is a discernible positive, forward-looking perspective that runs throughout the chapters, culminating in Chapter 14 – ‘Ten Steps Towards Containment’. These 10 steps include developing strong safety protocols, bringing in challenge from intelligent critics who are prepared to test the ‘what if’ questions, and developing international alliances and treaties, in much the same way as nuclear power is managed globally.

The proposed step that spoke to me particularly powerfully, from the perspective of what we, as educators in schools, can achieve, was number 8: ‘Culture: Respectfully Embracing Failure’, because in addition to its nod to the inherent importance of building and deploying a growth mindset, it emphasises the social and moral responsibility that developers and scientists – and, indeed, all of us – have collectively in the field of AI.

Schools can be real generators of this social and moral responsibility, with deep values at their core which when voiced, practised and modelled, genuinely enable young people to become decent human beings and good citizens, able to distinguish between right and wrong, and motivated to make a positive difference in the world. With schools explicitly part of the task force of AI development, then help is on its way.

So … there is light ahead of us, but a lot of work to be done. The message to take away is that the sooner that schools step up to their responsibility to guide the development of AI, the better for us all …

Mar 02

Compassion for self … a discipline

Although the Middle East School Leadership Conference in Dubai is now over a week ago, and, after a sojourn at home in Edinburgh, I am now headed to Doha for a few days (to include attending the annual British Schools of the Middle East conference), I am still feeling buoyed up the experience of #MESLC in Dubai. What a super conference it was! So many connections and reconnections, and such great and thought provoking sessions! I came away with a sense of uplift and focus. It was a particular joy to join some dots and create connections between astonishing female educators in Manila and SE Asia too. Leisa Grace Wilson, supremo of MESLC, deserves to feel proud of what she and her team achieved. My topic was ‘self-compassion’, and I have found myself reflecting even more deeply on this topic since the conference.

Dr Kristin Neff, in her seminal book ‘Self-Compassion: the proven power of being kind to yourself’, explains that research shows that there are 3 key elements to self-compassion. Compassion, remember, is a feeling that we have, and show to others, when they are having a hard time in some way; self-compassion is therefore a feeling that we show to ourselves, when we are struggling or suffering. Compassion differs from empathy in that it is not just the act of communing with another, and feeling alongside them; it has what might be described as a more activist element to it, as it motivates us to seek to alleviate the pain being experienced. A deeper understanding of self-compassion, therefore, helps us to understand what we can actually do to help diminish our pain or suffering, so that we can better thrive.

These three components of self-compassion, as identified by Dr Neff, are as follows: mindfulness, self-kindness, and common humanity. By ‘mindfulness’, she means adopting a curious and observant attitude to the state in which we find ourselves, feeling the pain or suffering, but, rather than simply dwelling in it, taking time to consider it, as a way to bring some proportionate thinking to it; by ‘self-kindness’, she means identifying what we actually need at that moment, in order to support us through the experience of the pain – this could well include forgiveness, which is of course a very active process too, because forgiveness requires that we acknowledge fault, resolve to address or remedy it, and then move forward. Each of these components requires discipline and determination – they do not happen simply because we would like them to; rather, they happen because we very consciously practise them, and thereby improve in how we manage to accomplish them.

It is the third of the components, however, that I find most empowering … while radically simple, it also challenges us to transcend in our understanding of our place in humanity. This element of self-compassion, ‘common humanity’, is the discipline of reminding us that every human being fails or struggles, and so therefore we are not alone. Cognitively, or in the abstract, this is relatively easy for most of us to realise, understand and accept, but the discipline comes from genuinely feeling it and deeply, deeply knowing it, at that very moment of pain, when our default position can often be to feel incredibly alone – ashamed, guilty, embarrassed, unable to show our face, wanting to hide away. Suppose we were able to reframe our thinking and feeling so that – at the very moment where we feel most alone, we are able to feel most connected with humanity, because this is what humans feel and experience? Just how empowering would that be, if we could?

Well, we can. It requires discipline and practice, of course – oodles and oodles of it, I am sure! – but Dr Neff’s work gives us a glimpse of what we can achieve in our self-compassion, when we start with the awareness of our human interconnectedness. When we are more self-compassionate, we are even better role-models for the educators, young people and parents with whom we work; we owe it to them, as well as to us, to do this. It was a privilege to stand up at #MESLC and share this; now, together, let’s start work on our self-compassion, and see where this might lead us all.

Feb 19

Meaningful work

The Middle East School Leadership Conference takes place on Wednesday and Thursday of this week (21 and 22 February), and so I am back in the sleek hustle and bustle of Dubai, ready to speak at, and enjoy, the event. My talk will be on ‘Self Compassion for School Leaders’, and so – in amongst my meetings and coffee catch ups with lovely coachees ahead of the conference – I am grounding myself in readiness by dipping back into Dr Brené Brown’s book, ‘The Gifts of Imperfection’ (the 10th anniversary edition, in fact, with a nice new foreword). This process of grounding myself in this way is particularly good for me, as I know I still have the tendency, if unchecked, to focus on the negatives of my own imperfection; learning to focus on the positives continues to be a discipline that I practise, and part of that discipline lies in being actively and regularly re-inspired. Anyway – allow me to share my musings …

Now, I am conscious that a significant number of my extended LinkedIn network are diehard Brené Brown fans, and could probably quote whole chapters; please, please feel free to share your favourite Brené insights in response to this post on LinkedIn! For me, in this reading of the book, and in the context of a few months of global travel, engagement at conferences, and reflection on how I can balance impact with reward, I found myself drawn especially to what this insightful research professor has to say about meaningful work. She reminds us of Malcom Gladwell’s three criteria for meaningful work, as outlined in his ‘Outliers’ – complexity, autonomy and a relationship between effort and reward (reward in its widest sense, not specifically financial reward); she also explains what she has learned during the course of her research. Here are some key points (from pages 142 and 143):

“We all have gifts and talents. When we cultivate those gifts and share them with the world, we create a sense of meaning and purpose in our lives.”

“Squandering our gifts brings distress to our lives … When we don’t use our talents to cultivate meaningful work, we struggle. We feel disconnected and weighed down by feelings of emptiness, frustration, resentment, shame, disappointment, fear and even grief.”

“Using our gifts and talents to create meaningful work takes a tremendous amount of commitment, because in many cases the meaningful work is not what pays the bills. Some folk have managed to align everything- they use their gifts and talents to do work that feeds their souls and their families; however most people piece it together.”

“No-one can define what’s meaningful for us. Culture doesn’t get to dictate if it’s working outside the home, raising children, lawyering, teaching or painting. Like our gifts and talents, meaning is unique to each one of us.“

Meaningful work

Just let those words sit with you for a moment. What resonates? What realisations or reassurances do they cause to twitch in you? Where, on reflection, would you place you lesser, at this moment, along the spectrum of meaning in your work? Bear in mind that ‘work’ does not necessarily mean your ‘job’; it does, however, reflect what it is that you opt to do, and how you choose to expend your effort. Meaning is important in life; meaningful work is important in life … clearly, meaningful work signifies different things for each of us, so the real question is – do we know what ‘meaningful work’ signifies for us in particular? As unique human beings, with all our quirkinesses, we are forging individual pathways through our lives, but we are far from alone; our paths crisscrossing inexorably and sometimes frenetically with those of others, in a gloriously entangled collective; how are we shaping our pathways so that they nudge us all forward, hopefully seeking to leave the world a bit better when we leave it than when we joined it?

If I could grant you a wish today, it would be that you could answer this question along the lines of ‘I think/feel/hope I am getting there’, because working out the meaning in your work, and practising it, is a phenomenally satisfying journey. Regardless of where you are on the journey, however, my wish for you is that you will take time this week to appreciate, and embrace, the meaningfulness in your work.

And enjoy, enjoy, enjoy! Onwards and upwards, as ever!

Feb 01

Women Rising …

As I prepare for this weekend’s WISE (Women in International Schools Empowerment) conference at the British School Manila, in the pleasant February temperatures of the Philippines, and as I reflect on the amazing work already being done in the WISE community in mentoring women leaders in education, I have been re-reading ‘How Women Rise’ by Sally Helgesen and Marshall Goldsmith.

‘How Women Rise’; Background is Metro Manila

If you haven’t read this book yet, do – whether you are man or woman – because it describes 12 habits which often hold women back in their leadership careers, and these are worth noting. The habits do not apply to everyone, and are by no means exclusive to women; I can testify from my coaching of women leaders over the years, however, that a large majority of women leaders battle with a significant number of these habits, and as such, it is worth us all paying attention to the articulation of these habits in this book.

The 12 habits range from a reluctance to claim your own achievements (Habit 1) to ‘the disease to please’ (Habit 8) and letting your radar distract you – a reflection on the importance of bringing authenticity and vulnerability to the table (Habit 12). The book explores what each of these mean, and gives some insights into how to address them; it makes for an interesting read.

One of the dangers, of course, in establishing a list of habits like this, is that it can appear like another stick with which women can beat themselves … it can become yet another list of things that women are not doing right. This would not be – indeed, is not – at all helpful to the cause of freeing women to be authentic, confident leaders and contributors, able to lead in their own individual ways, and able to bring their immense worth to the world of work and beyond.

To counter this, as I was reading the text, I instead found an image growing in my head of a large pile of heavy leaves, resting and pressing down on the shoulders of women, and in some cases submerging them completely in a sea of foliage. Each leaf, I imagined, was an expectation of the woman – an expectation born of centuries (millennia, even) of expectations of women; expectations about behaviours, about goals in life, about purpose, about family responsibilities, about relationships with others … even about who takes the bins out, and who doesn’t.

These expectations – these conscious, subconscious or unconscious biases – can be enormously weighty; indeed, they can be extremely hard to shift, especially if we do not even recognise that they are there … we can feel the weight, but we cannot always explain what it is. At times, the leaves contradict one another, and demand that we present ourselves in mutually incompatible ways … and as we are reminded in Gloria’s powerful ‘It is literally impossible to be a woman’ monologue from Greta Garwig’s Barbie movie, this makes life so much harder than actually it should be.

Woman Rising

But the thing about a pile of leaves, as you will remember from your childhood, if ever you played in a flurry of fallen leaves in the northern or southern hemisphere autumns, is that when you stand up decisively, the leaves fall away, and you can brush from your clothing any other leaves that remain. Stand up, let them fall away, and brush away those that try to stick … when I muse on this, it strikes me as a rather powerful metaphor for women rising.

So – something to ponder, and on how developing new habits, reframing our old ones, can help us to do so.

Rise at WISE, perhaps … for my part, I am really looking forward to it!